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Verna A Growdon has gone to heaven.
She collected owls.
She was raised on a ranch in the Central Valley of California.
Her parents were dustbowl Oakies ala Grapes of Wrath.
She had three children. Martin, Jerome Mark and Martha.
Jerome died at age 3. Martha at age 2.
The white lower-middle class culture she lived in did not know how to deal with tragedies of this sort. Her friends were too nervous and uncomfortable to talk to her.
Loneliness turned to bitterness.
Her husband Neil turned to drink.
And they both turned on their surviving child Martin Buckner Growden.
He got the shit beat out of him on a daily basis. He promised himself he would never pass it on to his son Mark. But pain is an incredibly powerful force.
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Yesterday at 1:55 pm Martin told his mama Verna how much he loved her and that it was okay, she didn't have to hold on any longer. Everything was taken care of.
At 2pm she found stillness.
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I love you grandma.
I miss you grandma.
I forgive you grandma.
I couldn't know compassion if I didn't know pain.
xoxo
Mark Jerome Growden
She collected owls.
She was raised on a ranch in the Central Valley of California.
Her parents were dustbowl Oakies ala Grapes of Wrath.
She had three children. Martin, Jerome Mark and Martha.
Jerome died at age 3. Martha at age 2.
The white lower-middle class culture she lived in did not know how to deal with tragedies of this sort. Her friends were too nervous and uncomfortable to talk to her.
Loneliness turned to bitterness.
Her husband Neil turned to drink.
And they both turned on their surviving child Martin Buckner Growden.
He got the shit beat out of him on a daily basis. He promised himself he would never pass it on to his son Mark. But pain is an incredibly powerful force.
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Yesterday at 1:55 pm Martin told his mama Verna how much he loved her and that it was okay, she didn't have to hold on any longer. Everything was taken care of.
At 2pm she found stillness.
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I love you grandma.
I miss you grandma.
I forgive you grandma.
I couldn't know compassion if I didn't know pain.
xoxo
Mark Jerome Growden
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Mon, April 4, 2005 - 4:24 PMI am so sorry to hear about your grandmother's passing. Did she go peacefully? -
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Mon, April 4, 2005 - 4:27 PMyes -
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Mon, April 4, 2005 - 4:32 PM((((((hugs))))))
and
((((((love)))))))
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Mon, April 4, 2005 - 5:07 PMMy condolences Mark. I'm glad she passed peacefully.
xox-
Sara
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Mon, April 4, 2005 - 7:38 PMBest wishes to you, my friend. I hope you can feel the love we, your extended family, are sending you.
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Mon, April 4, 2005 - 8:22 PMoh Mark, I'm sorry. But I'm glad the end was peaceful and she left with the love of her family.
You honor her and your father with your words, we (your community) will do our best to comfort you with ours. But words will often falter in the face of death, so be good to yourself.
Julie
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Tue, April 5, 2005 - 8:14 AMSorry to hear about you and your families lost.
Hugs and kisses
Sweetheart
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Tue, April 5, 2005 - 10:52 AMDear Mark,
Be strong when you have to be. Lean on others when you need to.
Blessings to you and your family,
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Tue, April 5, 2005 - 12:28 PMthe courage of your forgiveness is gorgeous...
living through pain and hardship can create bitterness in a person, or it can create a deep channel for passion and love of life to flow through...i'm so glad you chose the path of compassion....it shows in everything you do....we are all the better for it....thank you
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Tue, April 5, 2005 - 6:23 PMThat was a wonderful tribute. She had things rough it sounds, but was blessed with a beautiful soul for a grandson.
You and your family are in my thoughts...
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Thu, April 7, 2005 - 1:49 PMIf I should go tomorrow
It would never be goodbye,
For I have left my heart with you,
So don't you ever cry.
The love that's deep within me,
Shall reach you from the stars,
You'll feel it from the heavens,
And it will heal the scars.
I don't know who wrote that, but it made me think of Grandma Verna and you. You and your family are in my thoughts.
xxxooo
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Thu, April 7, 2005 - 4:13 PMbig hugs to you, mark. -
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Sat, April 9, 2005 - 1:07 PMSweetz,
Sending your grandmother light as she crosses to the next journey.
Much support love.
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Sat, April 9, 2005 - 1:37 PMHey Music Man-
Kate here. Hazy Thursday nights that move into the stillness of Friday mornings, always leave me lost in thought. I don't know how to reach you, so I am posting this...you should have my card-dig it out of your pocket and give me a dial. I Hope your footsteps are guiding you in the right direciton...
-k8.
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Sat, April 9, 2005 - 10:46 PMThat's a beautiful eulogy, Mark. Be at peace, my friend.
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Sun, April 10, 2005 - 5:05 PMSorry about your loss Mark. All the best to you and your family.
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Fri, June 23, 2006 - 1:30 PMMy mother's maiden name was Growdon, and I'd be interested in knowing where your Growden family came from. I'm trying to college genealogy and family history information on all Growden/Growdon families to see if they link up.
See web page:
hayesfam.bravehost.com/growdon.htm
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Fri, July 21, 2006 - 3:25 AMgrowwwww then**************
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Sat, June 24, 2006 - 9:21 PMI never met either of my grandmothers, Mark.
One of them died before I was born, the other died in India in frustration that she would never get to see her American grandchildren due to the arrogance and incompetence of her own expatriate son.
Cherish the time you were able to share with her, despite her faults, and incorporate her strengths into your being, artwork, and music...
With sympathy,
Prem
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Fri, July 21, 2006 - 3:12 AMwe're having arati at 4:20 todae so we can arrange for a pranayama session afterwards*
would the like to callaborate with one thee. . . . . . . . . .does
whenever there is room for a woodland retreat avoid alcohol we told the children from then on . . . . . . . . . . . . . .re ad in any instance of uprising remember the worste is over . . . . . . . . .sapiens* en france danse en etoile par la vie triomphant a la beau chanteuse par ta vie triomphant rejeoux en la glorei du ta original bleu . . . .la ame du amor pur . . . .mi ame est en la lun chanson qui chante la couer du la vierge . . .
?comme faix vous recointre mi? !wi faix trouves mi?
en la fontain du la vie infini je suis prendre un bain* * * * * * * au dela de la vie en la terre est la vie infini
est la vie infini*
i want to collect your hamster wagon*
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Re: Mark Growden would like Verna Growden and Saint Peter to Meet.
Sat, July 22, 2006 - 12:42 PMLove you grandma. I will always appreciate your passion for our family history. Thanks for the trailer, it's now my sewing room and yes I have a owl in it . rest love
